Me,myself and I

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There is a difference being alone and being lonely. If your purpose of wanting someone is for not feeling alone, then that is loneliness and you need to focus on yourself more. Many times people want to enter a relationship to not be lonely and that way of thinking can destroy your soul. We all get lonely sometimes, it is normal.

I want you to embrace being by yourself.  Some romantic movies have created a bad image to appear that finding someone would make you feel complete, but you could be with someone and still feel lonely than you ever felt before. Getting in a relationship isn’t guaranteed to make you feel not alone when you haven’t had time to get to know yourself more.

Ask yourself what your strengths are, your weakness is, what makes you happy, what you want to achieve and much more before you open the door to the possibility of having someone new. Work on yourself. You might be thinking I have been doing that. I mean truly work on you.

Is there something you want to do in your life you always wanted to do? Write down a list of things you want to do in your life and achieve.

Set realistic goals for yourself that way you would be more likely to complete it. There is nothing wrong with wanting to go big in your thinking, but know it wouldn’t happen straight away and it would require baby steps. It isn’t about getting there for the sake of crossing it off your list. It is about going through the journey it took you to finally get there.

Take yourself out on dates. People normally would go out with friends, family or on dates, but I want you to take yourself out. Set aside time for you to pamper yourself. Taking care of yourself. Putting you first!

Sure, people might give you the occasional look at why you are alone, but I want you to never feel embarrassed or less than a person if you don’t have someone with you.

To be able to really appreciate having someone, then you need to be comfortable being by yourself. Work on being the best version of yourself. It won’t happen in the blink of an eye, but knowing you are doing it is a big accomplishment in itself.

People are attracted to someone who is comfortable in their own skin and who knows their own flaws but works on bettering themselves. No one is perfect of course, and know the only person you need to impress is you. Yes, seriously, yourself.

Maybe today wasn’t the best you could be and you might have dropped the ball. It is okay, don’t be hard on yourself, but at the same time don’t slip into the pattern of thinking of giving up. The sun will rise and set and you will have another chance for the next day.


  1. This is precisely my problem. I’m too hard on myself, sometimes setting too unrealistic goals for myself. I know I need to pace myself more but this remains for now only theory.
    Nice post, thanks for reminding me of my mistakes.
    BTW, every now and then I go back to the blog of the people I follow so as to little by little read, if not all, then as many posts as possible. This one caught my attention because I just finished my next post, naming it exactly the same. It was a coincidence, swear to God and hope to die. 🙂
    Promise, I’m not a copycat.
    Anyway, you’ll see it for yourself. I’m still dealing with my neurosis. 🙂 It’s not as nearly as optimistic as yours.
    Nice talking to you. 🙂


    1. Hey, I never turn down any comments especially that I’m such an ant blogger 😛 I’m curious now to check out yours 😊 It can be awkward leaving a comment on bloggers posts because sometimes I wonder if what I’m conveying is what coming out correctly in my words typed out 😛 I got the title name for this blog post from a song I was obsessed with 😊

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  2. You are so right I loved this post. I do believe there is difference. I was an only child for 8 years and I am grateful that from an early age I learnt to enjoy my own company. Even now though I am happily married I still enjoy moments alone. I am glad Cieloscent shared this.

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    1. Hello, I’m a big fan of Cieloscent and admire her a lot! I even wrote a few blog posts dedicated to her 🙂 You seem like a positive person, so I’m glad that our paths have crossed online! I agree one must be able to enjoy their own company and have a love for themselves first before entering any relationship. Did you check out Cieloscent’s other podcasts? You’ll love it too! Cieloscent Talk Radio and Cieloscent Rosary. Enjoy your day/night 🙂


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