There is a difference being alone and being lonely. If your purpose of wanting someone is for not feeling alone, then that is loneliness and you need to focus on yourself more. Many times people want to enter a relationship to not be lonely and that way of thinking can destroy your soul. We all get lonely sometimes, it is normal.
I want you to embrace being by yourself. Some romantic movies have created a bad image to appear that finding someone would make you feel complete, but you could be with someone and still feel lonely than you ever felt before. Getting in a relationship isn’t guaranteed to make you feel not alone when you haven’t had time to get to know yourself more.
Ask yourself what your strengths are, your weakness is, what makes you happy, what you want to achieve and much more before you open the door to the possibility of having someone new. Work on yourself. You might be thinking I have been doing that. I mean truly work on you.
Is there something you want to do in your life you always wanted to do? Write down a list of things you want to do in your life and achieve.
Set realistic goals for yourself that way you would be more likely to complete it. There is nothing wrong with wanting to go big in your thinking, but know it wouldn’t happen straight away and it would require baby steps. It isn’t about getting there for the sake of crossing it off your list. It is about going through the journey it took you to finally get there.
Take yourself out on dates. People normally would go out with friends, family or on dates, but I want you to take yourself out. Set aside time for you to pamper yourself. Taking care of yourself. Putting you first!
Sure, people might give you the occasional look at why you are alone, but I want you to never feel embarrassed or less than a person if you don’t have someone with you.
To be able to really appreciate having someone, then you need to be comfortable being by yourself. Work on being the best version of yourself. It won’t happen in the blink of an eye, but knowing you are doing it is a big accomplishment in itself.
People are attracted to someone who is comfortable in their own skin and who knows their own flaws but works on bettering themselves. No one is perfect of course, and know the only person you need to impress is you. Yes, seriously, yourself.
Maybe today wasn’t the best you could be and you might have dropped the ball. It is okay, don’t be hard on yourself, but at the same time don’t slip into the pattern of thinking of giving up. The sun will rise and set and you will have another chance for the next day.