Think outside the box

How are you doing? How is work going? Talking about the weather. Predictable questions and statements we have become reliant and accustomed using. Small talk is a natural way connecting people in conversation making them feel at ease and comfortable.

Small talk is needed, but having that as a safety net always can stop you from discovering deeper and meaningful conversations. Finding out who that person really is, what makes them tick, and what is the reasons they do what they do involves more than small talk. Asking questions that really makes you think, allowing each other to be vulnerable can make the relationship stronger and bring the fun.

It is easy to ask everyday basic questions, we do it all the time. Putting yourself out there can be awkward and embarrassing and the worst scenarios are played out in your mind which stops us from taking the plunge.

It is about putting yourself on the line. If you’re not willing to do that, then how can the conversation grow?

Instead of asking how is work going? Ask, have you got anything you are working on that you are excited about? With anything in life requires effort and making the conversation progress requires effort.

Here I have a Podcast and a video which inspired me to write this blog post. The links are below!

Modern Love- The End Of Small Talk Podcast: http://www.wbur.org/modernlove/2017/03/22/the-end-of-small-talk-modern-love

Vanessa Van Edwards interview- Stop Being Boring: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1pT3xamrI1E

Hope you enjoyed! Share your thoughts in the comments. Thank you!

 

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10 Comments

  1. Thank you for the resources, Kerri! I am trying to better myself in many ways, and getting outside of my comfort zone is usually a doorway to growth. I’m learning to power through the moments of uncomfortable NOW to set my future self up for success, growth, and happiness.

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    1. Hello, Katherine, thank you so much for commenting on my blog post 🙂 I really do appreciate it! I would say nowadays from all the information online such as from bloggers, YouTubers, and podcasters it really has empowered others to want to better themselves in their life. All the best for you on your journey! Baby steps. Good luck 🙂

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  2. I love this post and I totally agree with you. I am not a fan of surface relationships. Most people don’t know how to have more. Great article!

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    1. Hello Shaunte, thank you for stopping by my blog and taking the time to comment 😊 I really appreciate it! It is true, it is hard to break the cycle of this. It takes work, but it can be done. Enjoy your day/night!

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    1. Hello, Vernon, thank you for your comment 🙂 I see you are a new blogger. Welcome to blogging! Glad you enjoyed this blog post 🙂 I appreciate you taking the time to let me know! Good luck with your blogging journey 🙂

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  3. Thinking outside the box means thinking unconventionally, and looking at things from a new perspective, from many different perspectives, if you will. It’s one of the features I appreciate most with people because I like to be surrounded by open-minded folks who are equally perceptive, compassionate, flexible and understanding.

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    1. I will definitely pick your brain then on all the different subjects that comes to mind 😛 It is easier to play it safe, but I know deep down we all want better and meaningful conversations. We can try to do it baby steps. It is awkward at first, but maybe acknowledging the awkawrdness makes it less of the elephant in the room? Thank you for sharing your thoughts on this 😊

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