How are you doing? How is work going? Talking about the weather. Predictable questions and statements we have become reliant and accustomed using. Small talk is a natural way connecting people in conversation making them feel at ease and comfortable.
Small talk is needed, but having that as a safety net always can stop you from discovering deeper and meaningful conversations. Finding out who that person really is, what makes them tick, and what is the reasons they do what they do involves more than small talk. Asking questions that really makes you think, allowing each other to be vulnerable can make the relationship stronger and bring the fun.
It is easy to ask everyday basic questions, we do it all the time. Putting yourself out there can be awkward and embarrassing and the worst scenarios are played out in your mind which stops us from taking the plunge.
It is about putting yourself on the line. If you’re not willing to do that, then how can the conversation grow?
Instead of asking how is work going? Ask, have you got anything you are working on that you are excited about? With anything in life requires effort and making the conversation progress requires effort.
Here I have a Podcast and a video which inspired me to write this blog post. The links are below!
Modern Love- The End Of Small Talk Podcast: http://www.wbur.org/modernlove/2017/03/22/the-end-of-small-talk-modern-love
Vanessa Van Edwards interview- Stop Being Boring: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1pT3xamrI1E
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